Fear of Failure: A Little Embarrassment Can Go a Long Way!

Fear Illustration

Driving a car. Speaking in public. Selling to customers. What do they all have in common?  Other than things we typically fear,  they’re all milestones I hit before ever learning how to swim.


When did I finally learn? In college. Yes, I just admitted that and no, I don’t blame my parents. At every opportunity, I fought the chance to learn.  As a kid, I would scream and wail until whoever was trying to teach me eventually gave up. 

It made sense. I already needed to take an elective course.  Why not Swimming?  So, there I stood before class, one piece of clothing away from being naked, shivering at the side of the pool.  My classmates?  Mostly football players and cheerleaders.  Clearly, so I thought, I was the only person there to learn something!  Was I scared?  Yes, but the risk of looking like a fool made me forget about 12-foot deep water.


That’s when I said “F-You fear!”, jumped in, and became a graceful swan gliding down the lanes!   Just kidding.  Over the next several weeks, I would flail and convulse my way from one end to the other.  Did I feel fear?  Yes, but I kept on going. And yes, it got easier over time.


Ultimately, I learned more than how not to drown.  Here are my three valuable lessons about fear:

  1. Fear is always looking for a good chase.  I was amazed that, when I stopped fighting my body’s natural tendency to sink, the impossible happened – I floated!  If fear was a person, it would be a bully beckoning us for a fight.  What does a bully hate the most?  Being ignored.  
  2. Fear is familiar and easy.  It’s easier to not jump into the deep end, go on the job interview, or ask for the sale.  We feel the apprehension and naturally avoid the risk.  It’s easy to forget that we don’t always need to do what our bullies tells us.  Sometimes, the greatest risk is never taking one.
  3. We don’t want fear to completely go away.  Bravery, is inviting it into our lives for a cup of coffee on a regular basis.  Without fear, we’d walk off a cliff or get hit by a train.  Fear caused me to take the swimming course instead of jumping off the high dive straight away.  For that, I am thankful!

How do we put this into action?  Challenge fear by first, allowing yourself to feel and understand it. Then defy it with every fiber of your being.  Rinse and repeat. 
Finally, don’t forget to re-visit the situations that scare you.  

Fear not only keeps us alive, it helps us feel alive.


Sincerely,
Meaning2work


Ps:  Check out the following blog post from Srinivas Rao.  It served as the inspiration for this post and, I suspect, others to come:https://medium.com/the-mission/everything-you-fight-has-power-over-you-everything-you-accept-doesnt-9c380d391acb?source=linkShare-b49167681b97-1539890903

Motivation Found: 5 Books That Prove You’re Right

“You must change!”  It’s the general message we get repeatedly from books designed to give us motivation.  And, no, they’re not always wrong.  We usually can improve.  Sometimes, however, isn’t it nice to be reminded that we’re not half-bad to begin with?  That we’re not broken?  In no particular order, here are five books that will help you swim against the current of yes-people in your life and the disabling bosses they follow. Click the Amazon banner beneath each title to view each book on Amazon.

How To Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Upset About Anything

Albert Ellis


Dr. Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT),  will have you looking at yourself and your problems in a completely different way.  This is no overstatement.  Following his model can drastically reduce the sadness, anxiety, and anger we feel.  Why?  A good deal of what makes us upset is due to the irrational beliefs we hold.  Take away the beliefs and the negative emotions begin to melt away.  This book doesn’t make the reader right and the world wrong.  Instead, it removes our irrational need to be right at all costs.

Leaders Eat Last:  Why Some Teams Fail and Others Don’t

Simon Sinek


It’s nice when people have the courage to voice their opinion – especially when it’s in sharp contrast to traditional thinking.  Most of us have been taught our whole lives to respect authority.  In doing so, however, we sometimes needlessly take on fear and self-doubt.  Mr. Sinek is here to tell you that strong leaders work for their employees and happy employees work for each other.  Using compelling examples from the US Military, he tells stories, not of tyrannical toughness, but of bravery and self-sacrifice.  Anyone who endures a work environment of fear and survival of the fittest, should read this book.

Minimalism:  Live a Meaningful Life

Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus


The authors of this down-to-earth book are two former, successful, Telcom execs who abandoned their corporate careers.  In doing so, they left lives of stress, poor health, and unhappiness to pursue careers in the motivation of others.  This book inspires the reader to emulate the authors’ healthy outlook on life without selling the traditional “get rich like me” happy ending we often see in career-change stories.  Anyone who is tired of comparing themselves (or being compared) to others in terms of monetary success and lifestyle can benefit from reading this book. This book has a corresponding Netflix documentary by the name of Minimalism.

The Obstacle is the Way:  The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph


Ryan Holiday


Sometimes, the person we have to prove wrong is ourselves. This is not your typical mindless pep-talk book.  Mr. Holiday uses example from history of people who persevered through seemingly impossible situations.  This book will introduces the reader to the ancient philosophy of Stoicism which helps us determine what’s in our power to control and disregard that which isn’t.  Approaching an old challenge with renewed energy or abandoning unproductive goals for new ones are just a few of the motivation that this  book delivers.

Thinking Fast and Slow

Daniel Kahneman


This Sociology book is very readable and has some very important real-world implications.  Most impactful is how Dr. Kahneman explains the large variety of cognitive biases that cause us to make erroneous or sometimes irrational conclusions.  Unlike the books discussed above, that mostly empower the reader internally, this is one provides motivation to prove someone wrong.  It teaches us to respect the complexity and randomness of the real world and understand the patterns we see are often merely convenient illusions.   As a result, one begins to see how the judgements and expectations placed on us in the past may never have been realistic in the first place.


Sincerely,


Meaning2work


Ps.  Please click on the images below the books titles to find these books on Amazon. I’d love to hear your thoughts on any of them.  Also, if this article is valuable to you, be valuable to someone else and pass it on to a friend!

Jealous Salespeople: Don’t be a Duck

Jealousy in Sales

“We hate it when our friends become successful.” – Morrissey

DUCK is a handy acronym meaning Designated Underachieving Coworker. It’s a work friend we keep around up until the point they start performing at a higher level than ourselves.  Are we jealous of our Duck?  Not as long as they know their place!

Does anyone set out to find a Duck? Of course not, we make friends with people who we perceive to be similar to us. And therein lies the problem. When our friends “make it big”, they can become, in our minds, dissimilar.

Our first jealous reaction:

They must be lucky. Interestingly, our need to prove this fact, especially when it’s true, make us less, not more happy. Imagine having to prove you didn’t commit a crime. The relief at proving your innocence would likely be tainted by the thought of someone accusing you of such a thing. In the same way, coming up with convincing reasons that our co-workers success was as a result of luck only serves to give us a tenous satisfaction.

Our second jealous reaction:

Find out what they’re secret is. Are they playing by the rules? In sales, many people don’t. Do they have some new insight that we don’t have? If so, what is it? Do they know? If so, will they tell us?

Life was easier when our Duck knew it’s place on the pond. Now that our friend has taken flight we have no choice but to shoot them down.

To make matters worse, management often relishes a good fight. There’s nothing subtle about published ranking lists that force one person’s success to be another person’s failure. After all, competition within a team always brings out the best possible performance. While this may be true, at times, what is the long term cost?

If this was a simple fable about the pitfalls of jealousy, we’d have this problem solved. Don’t be jealous. Life is, of course, more complex than this. Sometimes, in sales, people are lucky. Sometimes they bend the rules or cheat the system. And yes, sometimes salespeople develop skills or find legitmate customer insights that give them a competitive edge.

At this point, it’s important to ask, what ultimately makes us happier? Instead of debating the luck vs. ethics vs. skill of our colleagues, why not accept a completely different truth. Our coworker’s success or failure has nothing to do with us. We weren’t better than them when they were our Duck and they’re not better than us now that the roles have reversed. Therefore, we have no need to feel jealous. There is one exception. In the process of being a supportive friend, we sometimes aid in a colleague’s success. In these cases, we should consider feeling proud of their success.

In reality, our jealous feelings aren’t really about our coworkers. They’re about us. If we stop judging ourselves, we won’t feel the need to use others as yardsticks. Heck, we might even become a better friend in the process.

Sincerely,

Meaning2work

Can I Sell You a Lifeboat? The True Cost of Dream Careers


Perhaps the line between empowering guru and charlatan isn’t as clear as we think? We needn’t look any further than the hucksters of dream jobs that typically involve being your own boss and working from home. They float on the fringes of our ship-wrecked careers selling what else? Life boats.

Their sales pitch is success. After-all, look at what they accomplished! Here’s the problem. Sellers of quit-you-day-job, become famous, be your own boss type courses are smart enough not to make promises that legally make them liable. They make NO gaurantees that following in their footsteps take you to the same destination. They rely on our frustration with current circumstances and need for relief to drive our decision to purchase.

Then, after we’ve bought, we instantly become to them a liability. For most unethical gurus, teaching us is merely an item on a to-do list that needs to get done. Unless we can be sold something more, every minute spent on us is seen as a necessary expense.

Good Intentions – Poor Vision

One can’t broadly implicate all marketers of ineffective advice as wolves-in-yuppies-clothing. In many cases, they may truly believe in the knowledge they impart. After all, look what they accomplished!

Unfortunately, they may have one or more blind spots that cloud their decision-making. One blind spot may be the fact that lucky circumstances played a role in their success. Another could be that the marketplace that made them successful has changed to being less favorable to people following in their footsteps. A more concerning blind spot would be a success guru’s lack of awareness that their own achievements are tenous and based on short-game thinking. This refers to a hyper focus on short-term success over long-term goodwill, Seth Godin (an example of an ethical purveyor of advice), summed it up well in his blog.

A guru can have one or more blind spots and still have the best of intentions. Although they truly want to help us, they are, at times, misguided in their execution of that help.

Our Responsiblity as Advice Seekers

This is where we, as advice seekers, can benefit from caveat emptor or buyer beware approach. Wouldn’t most people be gainfully working for themselves if a single book or online course was all it took? This problem isn’t limited to infomercials or the online marketers either. Universities accross the country, from the local strip mall to the Ivy League offer courses in fields where success is statistically unlikely.

Perhaps, in some cases, the way training courses are marketed is all that needs to change. A more honest approach may be to promote some careers as side gigs or even hobbies. Do we want a world where the value of knowledge is measured only by return on investment? Shrinivas Rao recently conducted an interesting interview with William Deresiewicz on the Unmistakable Creative podcast on this very topic. A class on septic tank clean-up may impart skills that are quite marketable. Why can’t it exist side-by-side in a college course catalog with Selfie Photography 101?

Let’s not fail to ask ourselves, why we’re looking for advice in the first place.
Beyond the solving the problems of our current situation, what are we really looking for? An escape from stress? A feeling of legitimacy? To feel happy again? If so, click here to take my miracle course! (Just kidding! I had to do it.)

Seriously, what we really are seeking may be found in another source. That could be advice from a therapist or coach. By all means, we can quit the day job if we want. It may help first just to see if that’s the real source of our problems.

For me, no quick decision to quit my sales job was needed. What I found a couple years ago was that my perspective needed adjusting. As a result, I was able to grow from needing a quick career escape to patiently planning a career migration. No, things haven’t all gone perfectly for me since then. However, I can confidently say I feel much happier about myself and my work than had I not made the change.

As for anyone selling advice, yes there will the charlatans selling us inflated and false hopes. Reading uplifting stories sometimes focuses us too much on results. See my last post on measurement for more thoughts on this. We buy their courses because want the same happy ending they had. I’d like to see the tellers of miracle, David-and-Goliath-like, success stories give more consideration to how realistic and repeatable their success actually is.

Therefore, we can all benefit from tempering our expectations of the people we pay to teach us and question any story sounds too Cinderella-like to be true. We can choose instead, to keep our day jobs, for now, and measure success in joy not dollars.

Sincerely,
Meaning2work

Feel Like You Never Measure Up? Blame Claude Monet

“The next four weeks will feel like taking a sip from a fire hose!” I remember the trainer telling us on the first day of sales training. It was 21 years ago. I had just landed my first real job, in sales for a large software company. He was warning us about the onslaught of information he was about to deliver. All I remember is wondering how I would take it all in and make sense of it.

Today, we have more data at our disposal than ever and less time to interpret it. Reason being, we have more tools than ever to observe, measure, and record information. Facebook was started as a quest for one crucial piece of data: which young women on the Harvard campus were single.

Using the same tool, we as users, measure the popularity of every picture and hilarious or profound message we post. Companies also analyze and record what we post, like, and view. Again, the net result is that they have more data on us as ever. And, need we speculate on how much of our personal information the government has?

At work and at home, we tell ourselves that more information gives us more insight. We make better decisions, and have better connections with others because of it. We reason that simply having more data on the actions of employees and consumers must , in itself, prove it’s value.
It’s this need to make sense of all the data that can cause us to betray ourselves and others.

Measurement to Metrics – from the essential to the absurd


Measuring as a way of collecting data has been the key to humanity’s survival. How else would early man know how many buffalo to bring back for the tribe?

Today, you car’s speedometer keeps you from sailing over a cliff. Your alarm clock lowers your likelihood of needing unemployment benefits. We put our lives in the hands of measurements every time we step on plane. I rest assured knowing somebody knows what all those gauges mean!

Sports, it can argued, are essentially a form of measurement. Which team is better than which? Take a peak at a replay of an old football or baseball game and what will be missing from the screen? Many of the stats we see today (eg Yards per catch, on base percentage, etc). Heck, you may even be hard-pressed to find the score! Given our propensity to bet on sports, a whole industry providing “valuable stats” is sprung into being. You now can know how your favorite football team is likely to perform coming off Thursday night loss, on the road, in the snow.

Measurement and the collection of data has even seeped into our art. We no longer have talent shows. We have talent competitions in which the TV viewers rate performances. Why? Because we can! When watching a TV performance, I’ve never wondered what the rest of America is thinking. Call me a Luddite! Perhaps the fact that we have access to new information implies it must be important?

Thanks to technology, we have the ability to measure more than ever at work as well. Some of us may not be aware that spreadsheets were actually created on paper at one time. Today, there’s no edge of the page to prevent us from creating more columns for more things. And, since we have computers to do all the calculating, we can make new measurements combining two or more current ones. This beckons us to increase the complexity of our measurements.

Over time, we’ve replaced “measurements” with the more sophisticated sounding “metrics”. In the course of performing our jobs, we’ve begun to measure many more things. Salespeople arent’t just measured by their sales. They’re measured with things like sales call to close ratios and calls per day. Physicians aren’t measured by how many patients they cure or see. Their performance is measured in RVU’s or relative value units (a way of determining how valuable the work they do is to the hospital).

So, we live in a cycle of ever-increasing metrics, which create more data, which in-turn creates the opportunity for more metrics. Clearly, we’re beyond the point of measuring for survival, but who cares? More data legitimates the need for more managers to analyze it. It gives viewers a reason to tune in. It tells how much we are “liked”.

Monet-tizing Data

American businesses have learned how to take the data gleaned from metrics and turn it into revenue, an act referred to as “monetizing”. YouTube is no longer just a sharing service for videos of amateur stunts or people’s cats. It’s a sophisticated tool for advertising to select groups of people. Your video watching habits tell advertisers exactly what ads to send you. Sometimes this works and you see a video for something you’d actually consider buying. Many times it doesn’t.

Statistical science gives us ways to compare information and make legitimate sense of it. The problem is that most of us are not scientists. In the absence of verifiable statistical methods, we still try to make sense of all the data we have. Smiling at our own genius, we often draw conclusions from information like someone who is walking backward in order to take in an Impressionist painting. I call this act “Monet-tizing”.

The nice thing about metrics and the knowledge they provide that they make you feel smarter. You now see correlations between things you never noticed before. Things make more sense, or so we tell ourselves. Stories abound about companies finding one crucial metric that helped them create a turn-around. They found the Monet painting in the data, aka. the meaning of it all.

Paradoxically, the more we want our data to tell us, the less it actually delivers. Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking Fast and Slow, is so insightful, that I don’t mind being the hundredth or so writer to reference it. In the book, Dr. Kahneman cites several ways that we commonly misinterpret data. He refers to them as cognitive biases. They illuminate why, after we collect our data, we often draw faulty conclusions. We may see patterns in the data that paint, for us, the picture we’re looking for.

In reality, our brains have evolved to find what we we’re looking for and disregard the rest, giving us a skewed view of reality. Sometimes, we draw conclusions when we don’t have enough data. In short, there are many ways we can misunderstand the information we have and it’s implication to our work.

Why We Need to Find Pretty Pictures


Despite technology, our basic needs of food, shelter and companionship haven’t changed. These needs aren’t the result of rational choices. They’re our needs as human animals, not human beings.

How well am I doing at my job? How much money will I make this year? How much closer am I to winning that promotion? These are the typical metrics we put above all else at work. I call these our core metrics. They feed our basic needs.

To achieve some desired level in our core metrics, we happily place more metrics on the outside world than on ourselves. This includes managers critiquing a growing list of metrics on their employees. The popular business mantra ,“I can’t control what I can’t measure” gets inverted to mean that everything measurable is controllable.

We rely on a multitude of external metrics to insure we deliver on our core metrics. Beneath all the data, however, we’re all still anxious sports fans, holding our hands in prayer, hoping we win the metrics game. We’re hoping that the next article we write explodes in popularity or our next business venture is an overnight success.

Measurement Madness

On a personal and deeper level. We often fail to realize that we look for, in measurements, self-validation. We want our efforts in our work to tell us that we have value. We want our work to prove we are worthy of praise, respect, love, etc. We crave what Cognitive Psychology expert Albert Ellis called, Conditional Self-Acceptance or CSA.

If CSA, were a mental illness, most of the World’s population would need to check into a health facility. We all have it, to some degree. Just as measurement can keep our lives on track, their overuse can derail us. Nicholas Nassim Taleb, author of Fooled By Randomness, believes that we always have only one true reason for doing everything we do. Everything else is fluff, or useless information we use to justify our decisions.

Simply saying to yourself, “I am a good at my job” without any supporting reasons probably seems irrational. Shouldn’t you have proof of your skill? Some backing evidence, perhaps?

Ironically, it’s the meaning that we assign to the “proof” we seek that is irrational. Saying to myself something like, “I must be popular to truly be a good writer!”, would actually be irrational. There are plenty of popular authors that I don’t care for. Instead, I can decide that I accept my writing as “good” without needing the approval of others. Even better, I could chose not to make my proficiency as a writer as a condition for liking myself.

Defining Your Own Metrics


Dr. Ellis called the willingness to accept oneself regardless of any faults or misgivings USA, or unconditional self-acceptance. It involves much more than being one’s own personal cheerleader. Instead, one discovers the beliefs that cause irational thoughts and disputes them. Perhaps the Monet you’ve created of yourself is based on erroneous or irrelevant information. USA allows you to throw it in the trash like a garage sale replica.

I’m not sure where the rush of data is taking corporations or consumers. We may be continue to be measured in ever-increasing ways at work. Our future social lives may be evaluated in more ways, not less, and there may be databases we simply can never remove ourselves from. What I do know is that we as individuals don’t have to let it define us. We can chose not to measure ourselves.

Sincerely,

Meaning2work

Ps. I’d also like to credit Srinivas Rao and his book: An Audience of One: Reclaiming Cretivity for Its Own Sake for providing the inspiration for this writing.

4 Reasons to Love Selling (And Why They’re Making You Less Effective)

Do you like your sales job for the wrong reasons?

“Pride cometh before a fall” – Biblical Proverb

Many of the stereotypes of salespeople are unfair. Not all of us are the money-hungry, hyper-competitive, egotists portrayed in movies like Boiler Room. Still, some grains of truth can be found in the way we act when times are good. Consider the following reasons why, as a salesperson, you might love your job:

You love the money and all it brings
The fit of a new suit. The sparkle of a new stone. The smell of a new car. Who doesn’t savor these things?

You enjoy the respect you receive from mangement and co-workers.
You just finshed a great sales year. Your name mentioned multiple times at the sales meeting. Co-workers are asking for your secrets. Life is good!

Your customers love you!
Obviously they do. They buy from you, don’t they? Being liked is much better than the alternative. No doubt, a salesperson can make the difference when choosing between two similar products.

You play to win. And, more often than not, you do.
You’ve never shied away from a fight. You take pride in how focused you are on achieving your goals. Other salespeople aren’t as effective because they’re less confident or they get distracted with customer concerns.

“Yes? So what’s the problem?”, might be the response of a typical salesman at this point. Read on, if you dare, and see how your love for sales may betray you.

Big Money, Bigger Problems
The joy of spending money is in all things new. Alas, like the sales contest you won last month, all things new become old. After a long day of enticing customers with new things, we often, ourselves fall victim to them. Sometimes we make them the very purpose of our work.

Do we expect physicians to work soley for the money? Of course not. They take an oath to put a patient’s welfare before themselves. Teachers consistently say they teach for the joy of teaching. Yes, there are others, perhaps a vast majority of people, for whom work is strictly a means to a paycheck. Sales is different. Salespeople are enticed with wealth.

“Glittering prizes and endless compromises, Shatter the illusion of integrity.”Neil Peart

In the place of taking serious oaths, salespeople jump and cheer at sales meetings for the new goodies that define next year’s success. Houses have house payments. Expensive jewelry needs to be insured. Luxury cars have luxury repair bills. As years tick by, a salesperson’s “success” accumulates until she wakes up to working for a company she hates, just to pay the bills.

The price of fame
One month after finishing on top of the salesforce you receive the new year’s sales goal. You now have to sell 30% more than you did last year! Within a span of weeks, the intense effort you put in last year becomes “not enough”. Following traditional (and de-motivating) sales management logic, you can never be allowed to feel too confident. Why? Because confident salespeople are lazy! Salespeople respond by working harder to regain that original feeling of confidence. There is another group of people who live in constant pursuit of an original good feeling. They’re called drug addicts.

When you work for the respect of your co-workers you give up something much more important. Respect for yourself.

Your customer is cheating on you
The result of basking in too much customer praise is, however, blindness. We get so wrapped up in being charming that we fail to realize our customers have jobs to do and lives of their own. Salespeople who believe they are loved are often not listening to their customers. Take away the product they sell and away goes the romance. Relationships are important. Still more important is the problem you solve for your customer. That’s why you’re getting their time and attention. If you’ve done your job correctly, your customer is in love with your product, not you.

Playing to an empty stadium
However effective in short-term scenarios, theres a problem with focusing on competition in sales. Customers don’t care. When buying a car, do you want to work with the Salesman of the Year to wait on you or someone who needs your business? Customers like what you and your company do to help them solve problems. The more difficult their problems, the more creativity is required. When we’re in competition mode, our brains can only focus on a few things. To customers, this makes you appear single-minded. This isn’t helpful when an innovative solution is required.

Should salespeople fear success instead?
No. Don’t fear success. Fear the all-consuming need for success. It’s easy to love something when it gives you immediate rewards. A new car never looks (or smells) better than the day you drive it off the lot. Romantic relationships feel great when we haven’t been with the other person long enough to have a disagreement. Being a salesperson feels great when you’re on top. What matters is this, do you have a reason to go to work when times aren’t good? Don’t let what feels good now set you up for disappointment in the future.

Sincerely,
Meaning2work

Four Reasons to Hate Sales (And Why They Make You Ideal for the Job)

Let’s start with an introduction. Person who hates sales and swears never to become a salesperson, meet salesperson who is frustrated and unhappy with her job. You have a lot in common!
Surprised? Take a look at the following reasons to hate selling and see if you agree. Then, consider how that belief (even if ill-conceived) makes you a better potential salesperson.

The job of a sales person, at its core, is to lie or exaggerate.

Toilet paper. However boring or unpleasant, can we all agree it’s a product that effectively fills a need? Successful salespeople find customers with needs they can fill. At times, ambition and greed drive salespeople and their companies to push use of their products on customers who don’t need them. So yes, some salespeople do lie or exaggerate.

Luckily, not all companies are that desperate. Greed, on a personal or corporate level, is a choice. Customers buy from people whom they trust and who go out of their way to be ethical.

Feeling the constant rejection of a sales job would be devastating.

We humans are naturally focused on ourselves. We evaluate products based on our own benefit first. Salespeople start their careers with the same self-centeredness. They think their job is to be liked. In reality, customers tend to reject products or selling situations*, not salespeople (unless they’re rude).

Turning our focus away from ourselves and onto the customer helps us see what rejection actually is: information about a customer’s opinion, not a personal judgement. Rest assured, it’s good to be want to be liked. You’d be a jerk if you never cared what others think of you. Just try not to take every part of your job personally.

The pressure of a quota is too much to bear.

Ok, this concern can be legitimate. Not every sales job is created equal. Some employers treat their salespeople like stocks. They buy them low and dump them quickly on bad news. Still, other companies take the time to train and support their salespeople.

Finding a sales job, in today’s market, without a performance target is difficult. Keep in mind, you probably don’t fear the outcome of falling short. You fear what it says about you. Does failing make you a failure? That’s your choice to make.

Anyone in, or considering a career in sales should weigh the level of support offered by a sales position compared to it’s performance expectations.

Customers are often ignorant and never happy. Why try to please them?

Some of us go to great lengths to avoid the people who actually create the need for our work. Customers. Ignore them long enough, and you risk mistaking knowledge of your own business for knowledge of your customer’s. Take the time to listen to customer complaints and you will learn valuable information about how to improve your product offering.

Therefore, it’s more than OK if you don’t want to be that lying, self-absorbed, and stressed salesperson. The profession has hit it’s quota of those people! Instead, Sales needs people who not only want to work hard, but also are sincere and want to help others. Sales needs YOU!

Sincerely,
Meaning2work

*A selling situation is anything referring to the circumstances surrounding the sales interraction. Some common selling situation mistakes are visiting a customer at the wrong time or day, attempting to sell to someone who is not a decision maker, or approaching a decision maker when they are negative state of mind. The customer rejects the situation, not the salesperson or even the product.

4 Ways Salespeople are Trained Like Puppies

Here’s a fun quiz! Below are three pieces of training advice. Read each and decide if it came from either: a popular book on training sales people, or a popular book on training puppies.

1. Invest a lot of time in the first 3 months to help your (sales rep/puppy) establish good habits.
2. Remain consistent when training your (sales rep/puppy).
3. Don’t reprimand your (sales rep/puppy) for mistakes made. Instead, quietly direct them to the proper behavior.
So, which advice is for puppies and which is for sales people? Answer: all three are for puppies!

Surprising? Not if you’re a salesperson. If you are, you’ve dealt with a mixture of treats and belt-lashings over the years. Here are 4 reasons to believe the training of sales people hasn’t progressed beyond that of puppies:

1. Like puppies, salespeople, regardless of experience, are often treated as if they know nothing. Years of selling experience can be negated by a simple change of industry. Hiring managers and trainers alike have little patience for learning the intracacies of selling anything other than their own product. Surely that information is irrelevant!

2. Because they all equally know nothing, salespeople and puppies are both given very rigid direction. Despite the recommendations popular management books like, “Leadership and The One Minute Manager“, sales training continues to use a one-size fits all approach. The problem is not that older reps can’t learn new tricks. It’s that they’re less likely to encounter anything that’s truly new to them.

3. When it comes to training, salespeople and puppies are given about an equal level of respect. Yes, humans are permitted to ask many more questions than dogs. But, no sales rep is permitted, realistically, to alter his own onboarding or training process before it’s done. Please don’t question me on this point until you’re done reading this article! (Get it?)

4. After initial training, salespeople face more negative consequences than dogs. Sure, no one is dropping their underperforming reps off at the pound. That would be expensive! Thankfully, the old tradition of negative reprimands are gone – if you’re a dog. Salespeople continue to face the pressure of quota attainment, despite the challenges of specific territories or customers. And, thanks to forced rankings, salespeople are compelled to sniff their own pile of mistakes on a regular basis.

So, what’s a lowly salesperson to do? The best response to being treated like an animal is to act like an intelligent human being. Your manager and trainer don’t want to see you fail. They may have perfect intentions, but no clue how to help you.

If possible, determine for yourself, what knowledge you need to be successful. If you’re not sure what that is, ask. Check first with other reps, then your manager, then you’re training staff. It’s important to talk to someone in the trenches first to learn how business is actually gets done. Only then should you move up the chain to learn the way things “should” work. Most importantly, you can reconcile the corporate and field points of view by asking informed questions in your training class.

Don’t be afraid to bark the loudest! When you get to the field, your leash may be long but your learning time will be limited.

Sincerely,
Meaning2work

Ps: The book I borrow from is, “A Member of the Family: The Ultimate Guide to Living With a Happy and Healthy Dog“, by Cesar Millan.